thoughts of an aspie

As we grow from children into adults, there are certain milestones in our lives that signify healthy development. Maybe you remember learning to swim,ride a bike or write your name. Maybe you remember learning to play sports. Maybe you just like being able to walk and eat  at the same time without falling on your face. These are all thanks…

TOAA Reflections What it Means to be Part of a Support Network By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso In a continuation of considering recent events in my life, I’ve been trying to make an effort to try to understand some of the viewpoints of the people around me. My mother recently told me that my recent tough spots were toxic to her…

TOAA Reflections Is There Really a “Right” and “Wrong”? By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso I felt like starting today off with a little reflection. I actually have a bit of a headache but my mind feels active today. Maybe that means I’ll accomplish some things today. Recently I’ve been trying to make more efforts to try and learn more about communication…

TOAA Reflections Are Negative Emotions Necessary to Heal? By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso So I know I’ve been reflecting a lot lately. Part of that is adjusting to a new medication but part of it is really starting to have to deal with the emotional roller coaster of healing from some personal relationships I’ve had to come to terms with. You…

TOAA Reflections How a Photobooth and a Phone Call Saved my Life By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso Today is an amazing day. It’s Halloween and on this day two years ago I stood in a courthouse and did the one thing I never thought I would do. I got married. Now you may not think getting married is amazing, but far…

TOAA Reflections The Problems With How Our Society Treats Abuse Victims By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso So a little while ago I did another reflection called “Why is it Always my Fault?” in response to an incident with my parents and it got me thinking about something. One of the reasons it got me thinking is that I realized it was…

We all deal with stress  and hardship at some point in our lifetime. Whether it’s financial hardship, failed relationships, personal tragedies or stress from a medical issue we will have our own ways of dealing with those events. But while some of us can push through or grieve in a healthy manner, that’s not the case for everyone. Today we’ll…

How do you feel about conversations? We have so many of them in our day-to-day routine, from little talks about how the work day is to bigger talks about serious topics with those close to us. Which one do you find to be more difficult? If you’re a person on the autism spectrum you might be more inclined to say…

TOAA Reflections Why is it Always my Fault? By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso Lately it seems like I’m hanging by the thinnest thread in the world. My whole life is in a constant state of crumbling apart around me and my mind isn’t my own anymore. It seems like no one is listening to me and just tonight I overheard my…

TOAA Reflections A Survivor’s Guide to Dealing With SAD/Seasonal Depression By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso Lately I’ve been on a bit of a hiatus from my normally scheduled creative work. It’s just been too hard to focus with the onset of my Seasonal Affective Disorder. I actually made a sort of mini awareness post on that subject earlier in the week…