thoughts of an aspie

TOAA Reflections Maintenance Levels and Looking Your Age By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso I’ve had a really strange week. I’ve wanted to write but I haven’t wanted to write what I’m supposed to be working on. I’m not sure if that’s just an affliction a writer has or just a creative thing in general. If you’re an artist or some other…

Human relationships can be a complicated thing, and on a deeper level so can reconciling who you are as a person and knowing where your own morals should or do lie. We deal with moral dilemmas on a daily basis and it can sometimes be difficult to know when we’re truly doing the right thing or taking a proper stance…

TOAA Reflections Seeing Color & What it Truly Means to be Offended By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso Earlier tonight I read a Twitter thread regarding the use of the phrase “I don’t see color.” and it made me think a good bit. Now if it’s not perfectly clear from my avatar, I am a person of color. I’m also a person…

TOAA Reflections Finding Resolve in a New Year By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso It’s been a while since I’ve written anything. I am still going to get back to regular blogs soon but I wanted to warm up a little with a good reflection. I hope everyone is having a good year so far. Now you might be wondering how relevant…

TOAA Reflections Giving the Gifts That Matter By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso For most holidays we celebrate as people there are rituals associated with them such as eating food or giving gifts. Over the years giving gifts has risen from being part of Christmas to perhaps the most prominent part of it.Christmas is not only one of the most profitable commercially…

TOAA Reflections Understanding Guilt and Healing Through Selfishness By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso I woke up this morning with a flurry of ideas and I had to write another reflection. I think short of being a little behind on my creative work this week, I’ve been even more behind on self-care. When we’re dealing with stress and abuse, especially at the…

TOAA Reflections Shouldn’t a Person’s Best be Good Enough? By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso Growing up I was more or less forcibly raised into the Catholic church and given the idea that the holidays were about peace and love. I remember seeing everything from images on cards to families in movies having wonderful holidays where people worked together and parents doted…

Conversations are part of everyday life but we’ve perhaps all experienced being at a loss for words. There are many different reasons we might run into that loss for words. Sometimes we aren’t sure how to respond or can’t find the right words, but sometimes it’s not a matter of choice. Selective mutism is perhaps a condition you’ve never heard…

As we grow from children into adults, there are certain milestones in our lives that signify healthy development. Maybe you remember learning to swim,ride a bike or write your name. Maybe you remember learning to play sports. Maybe you just like being able to walk and eat  at the same time without falling on your face. These are all thanks…

TOAA Reflections What it Means to be Part of a Support Network By Melissa K. Vassar-Belloso In a continuation of considering recent events in my life, I’ve been trying to make an effort to try to understand some of the viewpoints of the people around me. My mother recently told me that my recent tough spots were toxic to her…